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		<title>Five ADHD Parenting Mistakes (And How to Correct Them)</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:14:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well-meaning relatives, friends, and magazine articles have probably given you lots of advice on how to parent your ADHD child.  However, the so-called “rules” of good parenting don’t always work, especially when many of these techniques are only fads. Here are the five most ineffective ADHD parenting approaches and how you can make them work [...]]]></description>
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<p>Well-meaning relatives, friends, and magazine articles have probably given you lots of advice on how to parent your ADHD child.  However, the so-called “rules” of good parenting don’t always work, especially when many of these techniques are only fads. Here are the five most ineffective ADHD parenting approaches and how you can make them work for your child.</p>
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<p><strong>Building your child’s self-esteem will improve behavior</strong></p>
<p>One of the most prevalent theories today is that if a child with ADHD feels good about himself or herself, then any behavioral problems this child might experience will go away.  While this might work in theory, the problem is when parents make it easy for their child to develop high self-esteem. Maybe they ask the teacher to go easy on their ADHD child, or they praise their child endlessly. However, self-esteem does not come from empty praise; rather, it is earned from doing things that are difficult, or things that your child can feel proud of.  In order to give your child healthy self-esteem, teach him or her to solve problems and how to function well.  Start by giving your child more responsibility at home, and then have them work their way up to bigger tasks.</p>
<p><strong>Talking about feelings calms down an angry child</strong></p>
<p>Whenever your ADHD child acts out, you first reaction is probably to ask why he is upset. The theory is that if your child understands what he is feeling, your child will calm down and have control over his behavior. Unfortunately, upset children are not very good at reflecting about their feelings, and children with ADHD often don’t have the vocabulary to express why they are upset.  Instead of asking your child why he’s upset, teach him the appropriate ways to express his feelings.  The goal is not to help your child understand what he feels, but to make your child understand the proper ways to behave regardless of what they feel.</p>
<p><strong>Children with ADHD need different standards</strong></p>
<p>It’s tempting for parents and teachers to uphold ADHD children to different standards so they don’t have an even harder time than they already do.  However, this is probably the worst thing any parent can do to their ADHD child. When your child turns 18 and enters the real world, no one will care what disorder your child has.  If your child cannot perform well and get along with others, he is going to fall behind.  While children with ADHD may not have the same academic proficiency as other children, they still have to be proficient in meeting behavioral expectations, performance expectations, and following cultural norms.  Instead of making it easy for your child, help him learn to be accountable and responsible for his behavior and performance.</p>
<p><strong>It’s just a teenage phase</strong></p>
<p>Adolescents and teens may sometimes experiment with dangerous behaviors like drugs, alcohol, or violence.  For many teens with ADHD, however, these aren’t just phases. They might start out as things they just want to try, but they end up getting used to the behavior as a coping mechanism to the stress or frustration they experience.   Make it clear that doing drugs and drinking alcohol are high-risk activities, not only because they’ll get into trouble with the law, but because they’ll impair your child’s judgment and ability to solve problems. The good news is that teens whose ADHD symptoms have been managed at an early age are less likely to engage in these high-risk behaviors.</p>
<p><strong>Punishment has to hurt</strong></p>
<p>Dealing with a misbehaving child with ADHD can be very frustrating, especially if they repeat the same mistakes.  It’s not uncommon for parents to feel the need to implement a bigger and harsher punishment in order to get through to their child. However, punishment does not translate into better behavior unless your child learns from it.  Instead of just grounding your child, give your child consequences with a learning experience – remove a privilege or impose an unpleasant task until your child performs a desired behavior. For instance, you want your child to treat his brother with respect. So say to your child, “You can’t use the PlayStation unless you don’t cuss at or hit your brother for 24 hours.”</p>
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		<title>ADHD Parenting: Five Secrets to Better Behavior</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2011 15:47:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Taking care of a child with ADHD is a 24-hour challenge. From getting your child out of bed in the morning to making sure he sleeps at night, it feels like you’re engaged in a tug-of-war all day long. While there are certainly many resources that can help parents cope with ADHD behavioral problems, it [...]]]></description>
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<p>Taking care of a child with ADHD is a 24-hour challenge. From getting your child out of bed in the morning to making sure he sleeps at night, it feels like you’re engaged in a tug-of-war all day long. While there are certainly many resources that can help parents cope with ADHD behavioral problems, it seems that the more they read, the more confused they become as to how to discipline their child. The key to ADHD parenting is to realize that your child’s brain is wired differently from his peers. One-size-fit-all parenting approaches won’t always work with your child, but here are five secrets that do.</p>
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<p><strong>Adapt your parenting techniques to ADHD</strong></p>
<p>There’s a reason why discipline techniques that seem to work for all kids aren’t quite as effective among kids with ADHD. Research discovered that the socio-emotional development of these children is slightly delayed.  A six-year-old boy with ADHD has the emotional development of a four-year-old.  If this is the case with your child, try to find parenting techniques that work with his stage of development rather than his biological age.</p>
<p>A popular example is the “time-out” technique, a discipline tool recommended to help ADHD kids overcome impulsive behavior like hitting or talking back.  Parents are told to look at a child’s age, then add one minute of time-out for every year.  Hence, your six-year-old should spend six minutes calming down in timeout. However, your six-year-old also has ADHD and will react more like a five-year-old.  So five minutes in timeout may be more appropriate.</p>
<p><strong>Motivate with rewards</strong></p>
<p>Tempting as it may be to punish a child who constantly misbehaves, studies show that children with ADHD respond better to rewards instead.  Going back to the timeout example &#8211; if your child refuses to stay quiet during timeout, say that the timeout will be twice as long, but he can reduce it to the usual 5 minutes by staying quiet. By placing the focus on reward rather than punishment, you speak a language someone with ADHD can understand.  Another tip is to help your child correct mistakes by showing the proper way to accomplish the task, rather than getting hung up on what went wrong.</p>
<p><strong>Work on motor skills</strong></p>
<p>Make a habit to work on your child’s motor skills. Studies show that many children with the disorder also experience delays in motor development, which can explain poor handwriting or “clumsy” behavior. Fun games like playing catch helps develop motor skills while enhancing you child’s ability to follow directions.</p>
<p><strong>Focus on your child’s strengths</strong></p>
<p>There’s a silver lining to having childhood ADHD. Current research reveals that children with the disorder tend to be more creative and have a knack for finding out-of-the-box solutions. Encourage your child’s hobbies and talents, and teach him to use these to compensate for the shortcomings of the disorder.  Give your child a smile or hug when you see him working on his hobbies, and be present during your child’s games or recitals.</p>
<p><strong>Stay consistent</strong></p>
<p>Exhausted parents want a quick solution to their children’s hyperactive behavior, so they tend to experiment with different strategies every other day. Just as it takes time for ADHD natural treatments to take effect, so do disciplining techniques need time and consistency before you notice any results. Remain consistent with household routines, rewards, and punishments.   The first week or so is the hardest, but children eventually learn to adapt to these strategies as time goes by. Just make sure that your child continues his or her ADHD treatments in the process.</p>
<p><strong>Join a support group</strong></p>
<p>One of the best ways to cope with the diagnosis is by joining an ADHD support group. Fellow parents of children with ADHD are more than happy to give you tips and advice on managing your child’s symptoms and dealing with the challenges of the disorder.  At the very least, a support group will provide you with a sympathetic ear when things get especially stressful.</p>
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		<title>ADHD Parenting: Should My Child Attend Sleepovers?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 03:48:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When counseling parents of children with ADHD, one of the most common questions I receive is whether or not their child is ready for a sleepover.  Parents are only happy to help their kids build friendships, especially when their child has had difficulties doing so in the past. At the same time, they worry that [...]]]></description>
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<p>When counseling parents of children with ADHD, one of the most common questions I receive is whether or not their child is ready for a sleepover.  Parents are only happy to help their kids build friendships, especially when their child has had difficulties doing so in the past. At the same time, they worry that their child’s ADHD symptoms might be too much for the host to handle, that they might cause trouble, or that their child might feel homesick.  While these instances are certainly plausible, your child can enjoy a fun sleepover at a friend’s or relative’s house with a few preparations. Before saying yes to the slumber party, consider these issues first.</p>
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<p><strong>Control of symptoms</strong></p>
<p>Your child’s ability to regulate his or her behavior has to be the most important consideration of all.  Kids whose ADHD symptoms are out of control may end up being a burden to the host if they accidentally break items, run around the house, or talk out of turn.  Wait until your child has a better grasp of his or her behavior before agreeing to sleepovers. In the meantime, you can get your child used to being at someone else’s home and respecting another parent’s set of rules by allowing play dates at friends’ houses.</p>
<p><strong>Experience</strong></p>
<p>Not sure if your child is ready to sleep over even if his or her symptoms are under control? Consider his or her previous experiences first.  Kids who regularly spend time with uncles, aunts, or grandparents are used to being away from home and will probably fare well staying over a friend’s house. But if your child has rarely been away from the house without you, start with overnight stays at relatives’ homes before he or she sleeps over with friends.</p>
<p><strong>Flexibility</strong></p>
<p>If it’s your child’s first time away from home, think of a back-up plan in case your child does prove to be a handful for the host or if he or she gets homesick. Provide the host with your phone number and make sure that you have a way to pick your child up if necessary.</p>
<p><strong>Provide information</strong></p>
<p>It may help to talk to the host beforehand and inform them of your child’s ADHD so that they know what to expect.  If your child needs to take any treatments during the stay, give them clear, written instructions.  Mention any dietary concerns or allergies your child might have, and be clear about instances where you should be called.  You might also want to give out details about any unique quirks, how your child reacts to certain situations, and what discipline strategies work.</p>
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		<title>Teaching Tact to Kids with ADHD</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jul 2011 07:59:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If there is one ADHD symptom that creates awkward social situations and hurt feelings, it has to be the lack of tact. It’s normal for children of all ages to say what’s on their mind, but those with ADHD are even more likely to have no sense of control over their speech. Regardless of whether [...]]]></description>
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<p>If there is one ADHD symptom that creates awkward social situations and hurt feelings, it has to be the lack of tact. It’s normal for children of all ages to say what’s on their mind, but those with ADHD are even more likely to have no sense of control over their speech. Regardless of whether or not your child was speaking the truth (and chances are, he or she is probably right), every parent needs to deflect these inappropriate statements. Once the words have been said, someone is bound to get offended and you, the parent, might feel helpless or embarrassed.<br />
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<p>Teaching manners and tact to children with ADHD is just as important as helping them manage their symptoms.  Social skills do not come naturally to children with the disorder, and it’s a parent’s job to teach them what to say and what not to say. By doing so, you’re helping your child become appreciated and liked. Here are ways to teach tact to kids with ADHD.</p>
<p><strong>Let your child know what to expect</strong></p>
<p>Children in preschool and early elementary are expected to know how to behave in public and around society, but these skills have to be taught. If your child is not prepared to handle these situations, he or she is not going to know how to behave.  Experts in etiquette and parenting suggest anticipating problem situations and talking to your child about it to avoid hurt feelings and embarrassment. Let your child know what might happen and how he or she should react.</p>
<p>For instance, you’re about to go to grandma’s house. Grandma likes to cook healthy food, which your child is not too crazy about. Tell her, “Grandma is going to make dinner and she can get very sad if she makes a nice meal and you say yuck.” You can then suggest that your child keep quiet about what she thinks and avoid eating what she doesn’t like.  Similarly, if your child is receiving presents, let her know that the giver may be hurt if she says, “I don’t like this” or “I already have this toy.” Tell her to just smile and say thank you.</p>
<p><strong>Let your child spend energy</strong></p>
<p>For solemn occasions like weddings or funerals, tell your child that he or she will be expected to stay on their best behavior during the event. Of course, your rambunctious little one won’t sit still just because you said so; help your child along by suggesting that he or she let off some steam before you head out.  Let your child run around the park and scream while doing so, using up all his energy before getting ready for a serious occasion.</p>
<p><strong>Role-play a situation </strong></p>
<p>One other way to help your child understand what went wrong is by role-playing the situation. Experts suggest using stuffed animals and make a game of it to help younger children learn social skills in a fun manner.  Normally, adults get very tense when their child says something inappropriate. When we explain what went wrong while we’re tense or angry, the lesson doesn’t sink in very well. The child will then get confused or scared, and fail to understand what went wrong.</p>
<p>Using stuffed animals relieves this tension around the lesson you’re trying to impart.  For instance, have one stuffed animal say rude and hurtful things – “You’re so fat!” The other stuffed animal can interject and say, “That’s not a nice thing to say.” The first stuffed animal can insist, “But it’s true!” You can your child will probably giggle about the silliness of the conversation, and you can reinforce the lesson by adding, “It’s important to be careful about what you say about other people’s looks. If you see someone who looks a little strange or funny, try not to say it out loud. Whisper it into my ear or tell me about it when we’re alone.”</p>
<p><strong>Be direct with adolescents and teens</strong></p>
<p>When dealing with adolescents and teens, parents should be direct about the tact and behavior they expect.  Bad behavior should be confronted when we see it, and we need to be firm about our values. No putting other people down or hurting their feelings for being different.</p>
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		<title>Effective Discipline for ADHD Kids</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 24 Jan 2011 10:43:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Next to questions about ADHD treatment, many parents turn to me for advice on how to discipline ADHD children effectively.  Although natural treatments will help reduce behavioral problems in the long run, parents have to contend with their children’s stubbornness, hyperactive tendencies, and other misbehaviors today.  Parenting an ADHD child is no easy task. Even [...]]]></description>
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<p>Next to questions about ADHD treatment, many parents turn to me for advice on how to discipline ADHD children effectively.  Although natural treatments will help reduce behavioral problems in the long run, parents have to contend with their children’s stubbornness, hyperactive tendencies, and other misbehaviors <em>today</em>.  Parenting an ADHD child is no easy task. Even the most patient parents end up dropping their compassionate approach for a cycle of nagging, yelling, and punishing, which only seems to make their children misbehave even more.</p>
<p>So how do you get an ADHD child to behave?  As with ADHD treatments, there is no magic bullet or formula to better discipline; each child responds to different techniques. There are a few general guidelines you can follow to keep your child’s misdeeds in check.</p>
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<p><strong>Understand that discipline is not punishment</strong></p>
<p>Before anything else, you must realize that there are differences between discipline and punishment.  Most parents assume that discipline involves punishing a child, but they could not be more different from each other.</p>
<p>Punishment is the act of doing something unpleasant to a child who breaks the rules or behaves inappropriately. This is usually done in the form of spanking or yelling. When it comes to children with ADHD, punishment is the least helpful way of encouraging proper behavior. First of all, ADHD children are more anxious and nervous than other children, and punishment only makes these emotions worse. A nervous child cannot learn from the experience and will end up repeating the same mistake. Since punishment is generally unpleasant, it will also encourage your child to tune out on your yelling and lecturing. Finally, punishment encourages aggression, especially when a parent hits a child. Punishment teaches a child that it’s all right to yell and hit someone when you feel frustrated about something that person did.</p>
<p>On the other hand, discipline teaches proper behavior by showing a child the natural consequences of deviating away from social norms or responsibilities.  Discipline forces the child to look at what went wrong and how his or her behavior made an impact on others, thus providing the child an incentive for avoiding that behavior in the future. Discipline also teaches children to deal with their frustrations in a calmer, more rational manner instead of promoting aggression.</p>
<p>In other words, discipline teaches children how to learn from their mistakes instead of suffering for them.  Punishment, on the other hand, is all about the parent being responsible for controlling the child’s behavior, rather than teaching the child to control his or her behavior.</p>
<p><strong>How to discipline an ADHD child</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong>According to Dr. Jane Nelsen, the author of the book Positive Discipline, there are Four R’s to disciplining a child.</p>
<p><em>Reveal</em></p>
<p>Make sure you <strong>reveal</strong> the consequences of certain behaviors in advance so your child knows what’s coming when he or she chooses to misbehave. Let’s say your child just got a new bike and you’re worried about her safety.  You can say, “If you want to ride your bike, you have to wear your helmet or I’ll know you’re not ready for a bike yet.” This wording is more effective than just saying, “Don’t ride a bike without a helmet, or I’ll take your bike away.” The latter sounds more like a challenge for the child to test the rule. The first statement, on the other hand, places the child responsible for her own safety and behavior.</p>
<p><em>Related</em></p>
<p>The consequences should always be logically <strong>related</strong> to the deed. For instance, taking away TV privileges has nothing to do with promoting bike safety.</p>
<p><em>Respectful</em></p>
<p>Give your comments respectfully rather than in a threatening matter. This helps your child realize that she has a choice about her behavior. You can say, “When I see you on your bike without a helmet, I know you’re not ready to ride it safely and need to keep it in the garage first.” Observe how this statement is less likely to encourage balk-talk than, “I’m taking your bike away! You could get killed riding it without a helmet!”</p>
<p><em>Reasonable</em></p>
<p>Finally, provide a <em>reasonable</em> solution that will help your child correct her behavior in the future.  You can say to your child, “You may ride your bike again with a helmet in the afternoon.” Stay consistent with the consequence of riding without a helmet (time away from the bike), but keep the time limit as short as possible to make your child pay attention to the lesson. If you keep your child away from the bike for a week after her first offence, she’ll spend more time feeling resentful than learning from her mistake. But if your child repeats the violation again, increase the time limit away from the bike to a day.</p>
<p>Children with ADHD need to practice behaving, and we need to give them second chances. Dr. Nielsen says that if any of these R’s is missing, the technique becomes punishment, and your child will react through another set of R’s – resentment, revenge, rebellion, and retreat (e.g. lying, running away). If your ADHD child shows any these responses, there’s a possibility that one of the four R’s of discipline was missing from the technique.  The good news is that you too have second chances to help your child achieve better behavior in the future.</p>
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		<title>ADHD Treatment: How to Get Fathers Involved</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Dec 2010 08:29:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A colleague once remarked that in his experience working with families and children with ADHD, fathers rarely participate in behavior modification programs. This phenomenon has more to do with cultural forces than anything else; generally speaking, topics covered in these programs fall under the mother’s domain (time management, organization, and self-control). Such traditional parenting programs [...]]]></description>
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<p>A colleague once remarked that in his experience working with families and children with ADHD, fathers rarely participate in behavior modification programs. This phenomenon has more to do with cultural forces than anything else; generally speaking, topics covered in these programs fall under the mother’s domain (time management, organization, and self-control). Such traditional parenting programs seem more relevant to mothers than fathers.  However, the success of a holistic ADHD treatment program requires the involvement and active participation of both parents. Fathers have just as much influence as mothers when it comes to a child’s academic achievement and self-esteem.</p>
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<p>University at Buffalo assistant professor Dr. Gregory Fabiano recognizes this and designed the COACHES program for his dissertation. For his research, he recruited kids between 6  &#8211; 12 years of age and separated them into two groups – a group of fathers and children who received traditional treatments for ADHD families. This traditional program involves training on how to deal with behavioral problems and other symptoms of the disorder. Another group received the same traditional treatment plus a sports program called COACHES (Coaching Our Acting-Out Children: Heightening Essential Skills).</p>
<p>In the COACHES group, fathers and their kids participated in daily activities for eight weeks. During the first hour, fathers stayed in a group training meeting while their kids worked on soccer drills.  After that, fathers and kids played soccer together as a way for them to apply what they learned.  To make sure that they’ve made the most of the program, fathers are given a homework assignment to practice in the context of the game.  Then dads get to share what they learned to other caregivers at home and continue to implement these techniques.</p>
<p>Dr. Fabiano noted that dads in the COACHES group had lower drop-out rates, were more likely to complete their homework assignments, and rated it as a better treatment. Additionally, dads felt a stronger sense of community in the program and lost their sense of isolation after meeting fellow fathers of ADHD kids.  Instead of feeling defensive about having children with behavioral problems and challenged in sports, they steered things towards a positive direction and helped their child build self-esteem and self-restraint.</p>
<p>You can find out more about the COACHES program at <a href="http://ccf.buffalo.edu/default.php">the University at Buffalo Center for Children and Families website</a>. Meanwhile, here are other ways to get fathers more involved in ADHD treatment.</p>
<p><strong>Do activities together and apply parenting skills here</strong></p>
<p>You can actually replicate what the COACHES program does by joining your child in a physical activity he or she can do well – running, martial art, bowling, etc.  This is a great time to cheer you child on and correct any misbehaviors he or she might make. Additionally, the nature of the sport also promotes certain skills like self-control and good sportsmanship.</p>
<p><strong>Teach basic skills</strong></p>
<p>Is your child not fond of sports? Another way to spend time with your child is to teach him or her a skill or hobby you know, such as carpentry, fishing, or rebuilding cars. Even if this hobby is as simple as cooking, take your child with you and use this as a way to bond and boost his or her sense of self-worth.</p>
<p><strong>Support your child’s treatments</strong></p>
<p>Attend doctor’s appointments with your child and find out as much as you can about your child’s condition and treatment. Ask the doctor what you can do to support your child’s treatment plan.</p>
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		<title>Managing ADHD Symptoms in Winter</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:58:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As a parent of a child with ADHD, you’ve probably noticed something I observe among my patients: kids with ADHD don’t do well in the winter.  As fall turns to winter and a blanket of snow covers the streets, kids with ADHD tend to: Become more hyperactive or impulsive as they grow increasingly restless. In [...]]]></description>
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<p>As a parent of a child with ADHD, you’ve probably noticed something I observe among my patients: kids with ADHD don’t do well in the winter.  As fall turns to winter and a blanket of snow covers the streets, kids with ADHD tend to:</p>
<ul>
<li>Become more hyperactive or      impulsive as they grow increasingly restless. In the winter, they have      fewer opportunities to burn excess energy or do activities they enjoy      outside of school or at home.</li>
<li>Become more argumentative      and oppositional due to the inability to use their regular coping skills,      such as outdoor activities or sports, to help them vent their feelings and      burn off excess energy.</li>
<li>Become more distracted and      inattentive, resulting in difficulties doing homework or completing      errands and chores.</li>
<li>Experience more      disciplinary or legal trouble as their frustration, restlessness,      impulsivity, and hyperactivity increases.</li>
</ul>
<p>Does this sound like your child?</p>
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<p>Like everyone else, children with ADHD develop habits, skills, or behaviors that enable them to cope with their feelings, highs, lows, and the obstacles caused by their symptoms. Perhaps you’ve helped your child develop some of these healthy habits.  While the average child can easily cope with the changes caused by the seasons, most of those with ADHD do not handle change well.  They overreact to these disruptions because they perceive a threat underneath the change. Because of their symptoms, their reactions to change tend to involve the behaviors described above.</p>
<p>What can you do to help your ADHD child cope with the winter blues?</p>
<ul>
<li>Keep the house as well-lit      and cheerful as possible. In the daytime, draw back the curtains and bring      in as much natural light as you can. At night, use lamps or light up the      room with a string of Christmas lights. Dark, dreary environments can      aggravate ADHD symptoms or trigger seasonal affective disorder.</li>
<li>Enroll your child in a gym      or a winter camp. These programs will provide your child with enough      activities to keep him or her occupied, happy, and fit.</li>
<li>Turn a spare bedroom or      garage into a homemade gym for days when your child has no choice but to      stay indoors.  You don’t have to buy      state-of-the-art exercise equipment for this; your homemade gym have a      hula hoop, exercise balls, a tension band, a trampoline if there’s enough      space, or a television with a Wii sports console.</li>
<li>Spend some quality time      with your child. Ask about how your child’s day went and what he or she is      feeling.  Make it a real bonding      session by sharing similar stories from your childhood.</li>
</ul>
<p>Most children with ADHD will show significant improvements with these interventions but if your child’s symptoms continue to persist, check with your health care provider immediately.  Kids and teens with ADHD are more likely to experience depression during the cold winter months.</p>
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		<title>Get Schoolwork Done with a Structured Homework Approach</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Aug 2010 06:18:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The first day of school is just a few weeks’ away and like many parents, you’re probably looking for ways to help your ADHD child excel academically (or at the very least, meet the passing grade).  One of the biggest challenges parents face is keeping their kids attentive and focused long enough to get their [...]]]></description>
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<p>The first day of school is just a few weeks’ away and like many parents, you’re probably looking for ways to help your ADHD child excel academically (or at the very least, meet the passing grade).  One of the biggest challenges parents face is keeping their kids attentive and focused long enough to get their homework done.  The average child often puts up a real struggle when it comes to schoolwork, but the symptoms of ADHD magnify the homework wars tenfold. Not only do they have problems with self-control, but their forgetful tendencies may keep them from taking note of the assignment and bringing home the things they need. Fortunately, researchers just developed a system that can reduce homework problems by half. At least, that’s what a new study just discovered.</p>
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<p>Researchers from Monmouth University in New Jersey were able to address the homework issues ADHD kids face with a new system.  This was tested on 39 children between the ages 6 – 10, with the help of their teachers. All children were boys, had ADHD combined type, and had problems getting homework done.  They were then randomly assigned to a treatment group that implemented the homework system, and a comparison group with no interventions.</p>
<p>Those in the treatment group kept a homework notebook where they had to write all their assignments. They had to show this to their teacher before going home each day. As soon as they got home, they were allowed an hour of rest before settling down to accomplish the homework in a quiet place. The boys were not allowed to play video games or watch TV until they were done with the day’s work. As a consequence for forgetting to bring home the homework notebook or forgetting to bring the day’s assignments, the boys could not use the computer or watch TV for a day. In two to three weeks, the researchers evaluated the groups and noticed a dramatic improvement in the treatment group.  The boys who followed the system experienced at least a 50% reduction in homework problems, compared to the control group.</p>
<p>The homework system sounds easy enough to implement, especially if you can get your child’s teacher to cooperate with you.  Even if the teacher does not help, you can still use the homework system by implementing a study time and keeping your child away from distractions until everything is done. Perhaps the toughest challenge is making sure that parents follow through with the consequences.  But if you already have a good <a href="http://www.unritalinsolution.com/adhd_behavioral_therapy">behavior management program</a> in place, then you should not have a problem enforcing rules and motivating your child to get homework done on a daily basis.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/news/20100816/structured-homework-strategy-helps-adhd-kids">Source</a></p>
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		<title>Rewards and Incentives Can Reduce ADHD Symptoms</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Apr 2010 09:01:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last year, researchers from the Brookhaven National Laboratory discovered that ADHD symptoms are partially caused by a problem in the brain’s reward pathway. Specifically, children with ADHD lack a protein in their brain, which causes a dysfunction in the way a person experiences reward and motivation. For instance, the prestige of getting good grades is [...]]]></description>
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<p>Last year, researchers from the Brookhaven National Laboratory discovered that ADHD symptoms are partially caused by a problem in the brain’s reward pathway. Specifically, children with ADHD lack a protein in their brain, which causes a dysfunction in the way a person experiences reward and motivation. For instance, the prestige of getting good grades is not enough to motivate ADHD kids to do well in school; teachers need to provide extra engagement to get children interested in their lessons.   These findings can probably explain why short attention spans and lack of focus are key behaviors of kids suffering from this disorder. </p>
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<p>This discovery also helps explain how ADHD stimulant drugs work. These medications increase the production of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is associated with the brain’s reward and pleasure systems. However, stimulant medications are inadequate long-term solutions that often come with harmful side effects.   Can the brain’s reward pathway deficits be corrected without drugs?</p>
<p>Researchers from the University of Nottingham recently came up with an answer to this question – it turns out that behavioral rewards work just as well as medication in managing ADHD symptoms. In their Motivation, Inhibition, and Development in ADHD Study (MIDAS), 28 children with ADHD and 28 children without were asked to play a simple computer game.  The game involves “catching” green aliens, which appear at random. At the same time, the child needs to avoid catching black aliens, which appear less frequently.  For each green alien caught, the child would get a point. For every black alien caught or green alien missed, the child would lose a point. </p>
<p>To measure incentives, the rewards for avoiding black aliens were increased to five points.  There was also a five point penalty imposed for catching the wrong alien.<br />
Throughout the game, each child’s EEG waves were measured to keep track of brain activity.  In the analysis, researchers looked at the markers of brain activity related to attention and impulsivity and observed how these were affected by motivational incentives and medication.</p>
<p>The researchers discovered that when the children took their usual dose of ADHD medications, they performed significantly better than when they did not take any drugs.  It was also noted that the increased incentives normalized their brain activity.  The EEG scans showed reduced impulsivity and improved attention once the points were increased.</p>
<p>Although experts are doing more research before applying these findings to the classroom or everyday clinical practice, many parents already use incentives and rewards to manage tantrums and other problematic behavior.  Simple behavior management techniques can do much to reduce the impact of ADHD symptoms at school and at home. Together with a comprehensive treatment program, using rewards and incentives can increase the chances of long-term recovery from ADHD.</p>
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		<title>Five Books on Parenting Kids with ADHD</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Jan 2010 05:49:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Yannick Pauli</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Most parents are at a loss as to how to discipline their ADHD child. Your warnings go unheeded, the house rules are ignored, and threats seem to make no difference to their behavior. Managing the behavior of kids with ADHD definitely has its challenges, especially since traditional parenting skills do not usually work on them. [...]]]></description>
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<p>Most parents are at a loss as to how to discipline their ADHD child.  Your warnings go unheeded, the house rules are ignored, and threats seem to make no difference to their behavior.  Managing the behavior of kids with ADHD definitely has its challenges, especially since traditional parenting skills do not usually work on them.  But with a little help from experts on ADHD, you might become more effective at helping your child overcome ADHD while keeping their behavior in check.   Below are five books that offer handy hints on parenting kids with ADHD.</p>
<p><strong><a href=" http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Children-Adhd-Medicine-Lifetools/dp/1591471826/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&#038;s=books&#038;qid=1262844342&#038;sr=8-1">Parenting Children with ADHD: Lessons That Medicine Cannot Teach </a> </strong></p>
<p>This book offers easily digestible information on how nutrition and certain therapies can improve the concentration, attention span, and behavior control of kids with ADHD. Although the book sometimes advocates the use of medication to treat ADHD, it also offers practical advice on behavior management.   The author provides a well-rounded approach to teaching essential life skills, improving school success, and building compassion for others. There are also questionnaires, checklists, and homework at the end of every chapter for easy application. </p>
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<p><strong><a href=" http://www.amazon.com/Chaos-Calm-Effective-Parenting-Challenging/dp/0399526617/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&#038;s=books&#038;qid=1262844342&#038;sr=8-5">From Chaos to Calm: Effective Parenting for Challenging Children with ADHD and other Behavior Problems</a></strong></p>
<p>This book was written from three points of view – a parent, a therapist, and a child – to provide readers with the most helpful guide on raising an ADHD child.  If you want to learn how to be a pro-active parent who provides consistent and constructive discipline, this book is for you.  The ideas presented in the book can be applied to very young kids up to teenagers. </p>
<p><strong><a href="  http://www.amazon.com/ADHD-Parenting-Handbook-Practical-Parents/dp/0878338624/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&#038;s=books&#038;qid=1262844342&#038;sr=8-8">The ADHD Parenting Handbook: Practical Advice for Parents from Parents</a></strong></p>
<p>Written from the point of view of parents, this book provides guidelines, advice, and suggestions to help parents interact and help their children.  While the early chapters deals with general information on ADHD, the bulk of the book focuses on managing and preventing bad behavior, providing a healthy and stable environment for the child, and working with teachers to overcome learning problems.  Counselors, teachers, and pediatricians have also contributed helpful recommendations and parenting tips.</p>
<p><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/School-Success-Kids-Stephan-Silverman/dp/1593633580/ref=sr_1_19?ie=UTF8&#038;s=books&#038;qid=1262844383&#038;sr=8-19">School Success for Kids with ADHD</a></strong></p>
<p>Who doesn’t want their children to make the most out of their education? Children with ADHD are very bright and clever, but the traditional school system is incapable of honing these skills.  This book discusses ADHD in the context of how the symptoms appear in school and strategies you can use to help your child overcome the setbacks of inattention and turn them into strengths.  The advice included can be applied to kids as young as the middle school years up until college and beyond.      </p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Reach-Teach-Children-ADHD-Interventions/dp/0787972959/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top"><strong>How To Reach And Teach Children with ADD/ADHD: Practical Techniques, Strategies, and Interventions</strong></a></p>
<p>This easy-to-read book is a user-friendly guide for teachers and parents who want to help ADHD kids succeed in school and life.  There are research-based tips on how to manage ADHD in different academic areas like writing, reading, and math, as well as detailed advice on teaching your child impulse control and study skills.</p>
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